Sports Thoughts

How 'bout them GIANTS!!! Ayeeeee!!! Did they not bring it?! Did they not? Eli Manning ALL DAY!!! *fist pump*

Sike, who am I kidding? I'm so unfamiliar with football lingo and the hypeness folks get while watching some beefy dudes tackle a little ball. I tried to get into the game though. I really did. I seriously need a Football for Dummies book, because the men in my life are not explaining the game on a level I can comprehend. My brain feels fried after listening to talk about 1st downs, 10 yd lines, interceptions, and the end zone. The only thing I understand fully is TOUCHDOWN!!! Why can't they just be fast enough to avoid getting beat up and just smoothly run to get a touchdown? It would be so simple that way.

Well, I guess that's the ultimate goal. But anyway...

One day I'm just gonna know the terms and the game. And hopefully, it'll be before I meet Mr. Man. I don't want him to have to explain the game to me. That's my job right now...when we meet (or start talking, if we've already met), it's just gonna be great. We can yell at the TV together, rooting for our fav teams. By then, I should have one or just go with the Redskins (my household's team). I'm not gonna be left out cooking and cleaning up the kitchen. Imma be with him and/or friends finally getting involved in the world of football.

I just admire females that are into sports. I wanna be like y'all when I grow up...lol seriously!

Can't wait for March Madness! Last year was the MOST basketball I've ever watched in my life, due to VCU's success. I just never knew that stuff could be so interesting!

Am I the only non-sports watcher out there? If not, what's your favorite sport to watch? Favorite teams? What/who should I be watching??

Can I Help You?

I'm often led to read Proverbs 31 to gain more insight into the woman I'm meant to be. I wrote this post last year pertaining to the subject.

Recently, I've been thinking more about dating and marriage. I'm at an ideal age to get married and begin a family. My mom has been hinting at it A LOT lately. Even the Bible notes that you should "enjoy the wife you married as a young man." (Proverbs 5:18 MSG)

I'm young. So, it's about that time! =)

I'm probably not ready, and I have lots to work on. But, who doesn't? If we wait for perfect conditions, we will never get anywhere. But I'm not here to talk about that. Mainly here to discuss a shift taking place within my mindset.

The husband was created to lead the household.

The wife was created to help her husband.

If the husband has no vision for his wife and household, what exactly is the wife assisting him in? Something to think about, right? It makes you look at possible significant others differently. If they're not about something RIGHT NOW (prior to marriage), a ring and a marriage certificate won't change the situation. Marriage isn't the time for a man to start asserting his authority and taking charge. It isn't the time to experiment and dabble in who you are. Self-assessment is a life-long process, but living single is a GREAT time to hear what God is telling you to do, without the duties/responsibilities of marriage muffling His voice.

My view on marriage is slowly, but surely, shifting to God's view on marriage. I was created to help, not run around doing my own thing. I'm opening my mind to the word, submission. I still feel iffy about submitting. Like what if I don't feel like it on some days? What if he's cocky, and happens to be a male chauvinist pig? What if he puts the fact that I'm a woman into some sort of box, like expects me to be a stay-at-home homemaker when I have my own dreams and goals...Unless God speaks, I just can't.

But God knows what I like more than myself, and I'm sure He wouldn't send me someone that would degrade one of His creations.

I've just been thinking more about this "help-meet" thing. When I look at potential guys now, I think to myself: Can I help you? or What can I help you with? If it's nothing, I begin to shift my focus to something else. It's gonna take more than pretty eyes, a sweet smile, and a nice build to keep me around.

As for guys, you should be thinking: Can she help me? If she is not willing to pray for you or help you in the endeavors that God has laid upon your heart, let her go. Furthermore, leave the lazy ones alone as well. Ouch, just stepped on my own toe. :-(

I might have to expand this to a Part 2 or something. So much more needs to be said. But I'll leave it at that for now.   

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12

Vehicular Drama

How much do you know about cars?

If you're a female and your car were to break down on the side of the road, what would you do? (Assuming that your cell phone went dead and your car charger somehow wasn't in your console.)

What if your car just stopped in the middle of the highway?

Or your car won't shut off, even after the key has been taken out the ignition?

Do you know how to change a tire? Check your oil? What about the tire pressure?

This post is mainly directed to the ladies, since I'm a bit biased towards the fellas...in the fact, that I think you ALL should know about what goes on under the hood. (Feel free to debate it. Haha)

So, I've had at least 3 issues with my car since the beginning of the year. I think the first happened on Martin Luther King, Jr. day. I was driving and proceeding to stop at a red light. I stopped, and the car just turned off on me. I was kind of on a hill, so I had to keep my foot on the brake, lest my car back into the car behind me. I wasn't panicking at first. The car was still on, yet off. I don't know, I can't explain it. Like I could still see some lights on (gears and lights on the dash). I started jiggling my keys, trying to start the car back up. I did this for the duration of that red light. And of course, the light would turn back green on me before I got it running again. Smh. Cars were blowing their horns at me, even though I had my emergency blinkers on. Rude. Don't do that. Clearly I couldn't move.

So then I hit PANIC mode. I started crying like a baby, and I called my dad. At that moment, my key jiggling paid off and the car switched back on. I felt real dumb and embarrassed, because I was trying to explain the problem that was a problem no more to my dad. And in the midst of that crying non-sense....lookin' like a punk lol...

The second occurrence happened a little after the first. I was getting ready to leave my house to go somewhere one day, and my key wouldn't fit in the ignition. I tried several times to fit it in there, and it just would not slide in with ease. I was trying to avoid the route in calling my dad. I always call and rely on him to fix my car troubles, and I have had MANY since obtaining my first car in 2006. But I ended up calling him anyway. He told me to just play with the steering wheel a little bit, even though it was locked since the car was off. Lo and behold, that actually did the trick.

Then, yesterday something else happened...on account to one of my many ditzy moments. I had just gotten off work and was parking my car in my driveway, and the key wouldn't turn back so I could turn the car completely off. Ugh! Not again, I thought. I kept taking the key out, and the radio was still playing and the interior lights remained on. The car was off, but I got my dad on the phone again. He was at work, so he called my uncle to come over and look at it.

I always hate those moments when someone can fix something so FAST, after you've been struggling for awhile to fix it yourself. And that's what happened when my uncle came over. He simply turned the key back (it didn't work immediately), but he did it again and the car turned off. I felt stupid, and he was probably wondering what the big deal was....lol

However, I drove to Bible study about a half hour later. I parked my car there, and the car still didn't turn off. Really?! I called one of my guy friends from church, and his dad came out to examine my car. He couldn't get it to shut off. So, I was glad that someone understood what I was talking about. I was not making this up! lol...Still, within a few minutes, my friend's dad got the car to shut off. He said my gear wasn't all the way in Park. I was confused, because clearly it was.

Apparently my cup (which was a little too big for my cup holder) was the cause of this whole ordeal. SMH!

The gear wasn't all the way in Park because the cup was in the way. Wow. I felt embarrassed once again...a cup caused this whole scene? Really?

I've got to learn more about vehicles, man. I'm tired of being that clumsy, scatterbrained girl. And I definitely don't want to be crying like a baby anymore over a car.

I took a step forward this week in taking care of my car. I took it to the car wash, and I rarely ever do that. Ya gotta start somewhere, right. And now, I'm really excited to take it back there on a regular basis. Call me a dork, I'm used to it. Haha!

I need to stop jumping in and out of my car, but actually give it time to warm up. The weather has just been too amazing outside, so I'm not sure if the car really needs to "warm up," but taking care of what I have is key to what I will have next.

To whom much is given, much is required.

I need to repent...

So I'm sitting here at like 1 am leaning over my Bible reading Isaiah 61 and crying my eyes out. (For real.) That chapter is entitled "The Year of the Lord's Favor." I've read this chapter before but of course if you are a regular Bible reader then you know that no verse always sounds the same. There's new revelation just waiting to be revealed. As I continuously questioned God about who I am, He sent me to this chapter. 

So as I was sitting here reading this I asked God "how can I possibly get there?" It's good to know that He has called me for a purpose and that's something I've never questioned because I've always known. But I asked Him, God how will I ever get there!? Is there anything holding me up?

As I pondered this question over and over, I felt the spirit of God tell me that I've ALLOWED people to put me in a box. That is all too true because I have. No one has experienced all the gifts God has blessed me with because I'm still learning more about them myself. But I think about moments I've done some form of ministry and afterwards someone will usually say, "I didn't know you had all that in you!?" Although I'm sure it's meant as a compliment, sometimes I want to snap back with a "Of course you didn't! Because you don't really know me!"

I don't mean it in a self righteous way but when people say that, what I really hear is "Woah! You've stepped out of that box I had you locked in!" I guess because I've always been slow to speak and more observant than extra talkative, people equate that to only being able to accomplish certain tasks. But based off of what God has called me to do, He revealed to me that those very qualities is what will bring HIM glory. It won't be deniable, that it is truly the Spirit of God that is flowing through me and not my own power.

As a teenager, I would do speaking engagements and I would never tell anyone. Because I was tired of hearing, "I didn't know you could do that!" I didn't like that it was such a big deal. I remember thinking "why is it THAT surprising? lol The holy spirit can use anyone." So instead of hearing that, I would just keep it to myself. (And close family members of course.)

But what God revealed to me was this, I've been ashamed of my anointing. Talk about an unexpected answer! lol Everyone is anointed for something, but the very things I've been anointed to do are the very things that I've wanted to hide. I guess that's why the anointing chooses us and we don't choose the anointing. I REALLY dislike attention. But I've realized that the last year or so, God has unexpectedly put me on display with little control on my part.

For example, I wrote a blog a while ago about going to an open mic to do a poem, getting on stage and ending up preaching hahahaha "Who was that????" Crazy thing is I didn't want to sit down. It took me back to being a little kid, teenager, even now as a young adult (lol) preaching in the mirror with a hairbrush. I remember thinking "God no one was suppose to REALLY see that!" And even getting put on the spot to do spoken word at a conference. (As I sat chilling in the back only to be called to the front.)

The anointing God has placed on my life will require me to step out. And I've realized I'm not 100 percent comfortable with that. Some people JUST WANT TO BE SEEN. That is so not me lol I remember sharing with one of my big brothers about one of the assignments God requires of me and he said, "How do you REALLY feel about that?" (Now realizing that his emphasis on REALLY was an indicator that he knew something I had yet to find out.) And I answered, "it's cool", not knowing that the assignment would require more than what I had prepared to offer.

(I hope yall appreciate my transparency because this is new to me lol And I'm being extra real but I was led to share.)

So the chapter that God led me to in Isaiah gave me much needed encouragement. I do understand however that just being aware of gifts doesn't put you in a position to use it ASAP. Operating out of a premature gift can cause havoc. You need wisdom and understanding before you can properly FLOW so of course certain areas need patience.

So I say all this to say, do not allow the "box" that people will OFTEN try to place you in become your own personal jail. You can convince yourself that that's where you are comfortable and should be, when truly that's not where you belong. Although people will have opinions about you based on what they've grown accustomed to, they don't really know YOU. They only know what you're hiding behind. And the real you is still working its way through the disguise (Talking to myself) I'm just humbled that God wants to use me. How selfish of me to hide such a blessing. "You will be used for things far beyond what you believe you qualify for!"

I WILL NOT BE ASHAMED OF THE ANOINTING!

Well anyway, Bless God!

I'm out. I'm about to go pray and repent lol For real.

Peace.

Tyler Perry Inspiration

This is so inspiring, and I just wanted to share it with you. A lot of people have mixed opinions of Tyler Perry, but the man has always been an inspiration to me. Enjoy, and take heed to what he's saying.

Grounded For A Lil Bit

Yep, I'm putting my own self on punishment. Sounds silly, but I can be my worst distraction...my worst enemy...my greatest fear...my biggest obstacle. No one else has to interfere with my progress. It's just me. Maybe you feel the same in your own life?

So, I've decided to just go on punishment for a lil bit...not sure if it will work, since my parents would ground me for getting bad grades when I was younger (i.e. no TV, no video games, etc.) but my grades wouldn't improve. I would just find something else to entertain myself.

I'm just tired of how everything's flowing in my life right now. I'm falling behind in my school work, and I'm getting to that nonchalant stage again...like I don't even care anymore. Just let me find a 9-5 like the regular people and build success from that. Just let me be average and live my life in the expected fashion.

However, I know I'm called to do and be greater than average. We all are. So, I can't keep putting in a below average effort. This goes for everything in my life---from cleanliness to time management to obtaining and maintaining some form of academic excellence. I may not like school, but that is the position that I'm currently holding until I'm pushed to something greater. Plus, if I play my cards right and all my necessary classes are offered this Summer and Fall, I could be walking across a stage DONE with the madness. :-)

Anywho...back to this self-inflicted punishment lol....

Time to cut Facebook and Twitter out for awhile (or at least until I get some stuff done). It is the BIGGEST time waster!!! I can't even tell you how many times I checked my FB on my phone today! Ugh! Too many! And I had soooo much other stuff I could've been doing with my time.

And a couple weeks ago, I downloaded Bejeweled Blitz on my phone. BIGGEST mistake! I can't stay off that thing! I'm always trying to beat my high score, while 1-2 hrs pass like it's nothing. Smh...I talked to my brother Sunday, and he told me to start playing this other game Temple Run. Ughhh! I do not need anything else to take up my precious time. And time is our most precious commodity.

So, I'm seriously about to take some action. If nothing changes, nothing changes. And nothing will ever change until you are so sick and tired of how things are going in your life, that you literally demand a change to sweep over your old habits and tired ways.

Unlike Chelsea, I'm not ashamed to let you into my world (my room) and show you how I've been living...lol... I mean, yea, it is quite embarrassing but that's more motivation for me to clean up entirely.

Peep the Bible in the midst. Yes, I was sitting right there reading it. Haha

Still need to invest in a laundry basket or just force my little fingers to fold my threads.

 My bathroom has come a LONG way since previous postings. Just need to sweep up my curly q's more often...

Not sure how long my hiatus from my current distractions will last, but I know I just need to get some stuff DONE. I need to focus on one thing at a time, and stop allowing my mind and surroundings to be cluttered. That could be a reason as to why I feel drained creatively. Spring Cleaning may be coming a little early this year...pertaining to the mind, body, soul, and ENVIRONMENT! :-)

Mrs. Clean!!

Hola! So I haven't blogged in quite some time. I've gotten back into school mode so I'm adjusting to hours of studying again. But I am back!

I don't remember if I told you guys about one of the bedrooms in my house that was CRAZY unorganized. (I say unorganized because it sounds better than junky.) But when my roommate moved in, the room she's in now had alot of my nephews' toys, books, movies, etc in there so her and the movers had to move it all into one of the other bedrooms. And let's just say, I dreaded going in to organize it. Part of me thought if I just left it alone, it would organize itself lol Not so!

I don't have a pic of the room because I was too embarrassed to take one lol BUT I am happy to say that about 2 or 3 weeks ago, I faced the messiness and cleaned it out, finally! It really was bothering me, like ALOT. Might sound crazy but I was actually losing sleep over the fact that one of the rooms in my house looked like that! I was not feeling it and I realized that enough was enough. It had to be cleaned.

Not to mention, I didn't want any family members or friends to look in there so I would try to keep company in the front/living room area haha I can laugh now but it was driving me crazy. I don't remember how long it took but I was so happy it was done.

I've noticed that I get into these extreme cleaning modes. I'm kind of happy about that though because who wants a junky house?? I plan on organizing the cabinets in my kitchen. They're not bad but I have alot of glass stuff that I can probably do without and/or pack away somewhere. I'll be doing that soon. I need to get into my washer and dryer room too. That's been looking a little cluttered lately. There's still a few boxes and other things in the 4th bedroom that I can clean out too. Hopefully I can finish all that in the next couple of weeks.

Other than that, I think I've been doing pretty good. I brought new curtains for the dining room, living room and two of the bedrooms that have made a BIG difference. And I plan on doing a little more decorative things in the family room, living room and dining room. I kind of want some plants but my roommate has two little furry creatures that like to nibble on plants lol! So I guess I'll hold off on that. Or get plants to hang up somewhere out of their reach. I don't know, we'll see. I will say that living with pets for the first time has helped me improve with cleaning so that's definitely a plus.

I kind of want to be a neat freak. I was always taught to clean up but to be responsible for a whole house is still a bit new but I'm glad I'm getting use to it now so that when I get my dream house, it'll be a very clean and tidy dream house. So yeah. If God wants us to live a pure lifestyle, I'm sure that can include the tidiness of our homes. I'm going to live a life of EXCELLENCE! Just call me Mrs. Clean lol

Sex, Marriage, and Fairytales

Hey beautiful people!

Yes, it's been far too long! But I'll be getting back in the swing of things real soon! :)

I came across this video yesterday. Maybe you've seen his other video that's been circulating the web recently, "Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus."

This poem is so good! I've watched it a few times already lol...the points/arguments highlighted are exactly what PROJECT WIFEY is all about. We want to be WHOLE before we link up to someone else. And without Jesus, it's just a mess anyway.

So...if you're single and waiting, I encourage you to get your priorities straight. If you're miserable now, you'll be miserable in a relationship as well. Only Jesus can give you joy, and I'm constantly learning that fact myself.

Something new!

So Candice and I have decided to try something a little different. Since all of our posts have been from a female point of view, we've decided to include some MEN! (Applause)

I think it will be very beneficial to hear from our brothers in Christ and because of that, we've decided to feature true men of God after God's own heart. We'll be asking them questions about God, relationships, goals, etc to get some insight from a male perspective.

If you all have any suggestions on questions you would like us to ask or if you're a male and would like to be featured, please email us at projectwifey@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

Stay Tuned!

Tuning!

On Wednesday night my Bishop was talking about how he had to earn respect from his wife, my copastor. He had to show her that she could trust him and one of the things he had to do was be consistent in his ability to hear from God. I've heard alot of people say "God said this and God said that." But I sometimes wonder if everything they hear is from God or if their own desires and thoughts take over.

Bishop went on to say that it wasn't every now and then that he got it right but he had to consistently hear the voice of God. If this is what you believe God said then this is what should happen, right? Well I started to take a look at myself and evaluate my own ability of hearing God's voice.

I've started to write down the things that God has spoken to me and also when those things have been confirmed. In December, God sent me to sow ALOT of monetary seeds into family members, friends, and even strangers. I felt Him leading me to sow this and then that and then over there and over here. I was just like "Ok God." And I've already begun to see the harvest of those seeds.

One person inparticular is someone I've known for a while. She's one of the sweetest people I know and her testimony is so amazing. I was getting ready to go to church one Sunday and I felt God tell me to find her at church and sow a seed. So I stopped at the bank, found her at church, and sowed it. Two days later on a Tuesday, someone had stolen her ATM card. She didn't notice it until she pulled over at a gas station with her tank almost on empty. The only money she had in her purse was the money I gave her. Wow! Her telling me that boosted my faith and confirms once again that I can truly hear from God. (That's only one testimony.)

As I was about to walk out of the house the other day, this topic of hearing from God was on my mind. And this thought came up, "You know you hear from God when you not only hear the good but you also hear the bad.You know you hear from God when you not only hear the things you want to do but the things you don't want to do." Hmm that made me think. It's possible to have selective hearing when God speaks to you or even to confuse your own desires with the voice of God. If God ALWAYS answers the way you want Him to then................................................................................................................................................lol

To be honest, God jacks me up sometimes. He tells me things that I don't always want to hear but because I have faith in Him, I'll go ahead and follow Him even when I don't understand. It always seemed like some people's conversations with God were always so pleasant. It seemed like He always instructed them and/or confirmed for them to do things they wanted and desired to do and I didn't think it was fair lol I even prayed about that once but realized that as long as I'm doing what He told me to do, I can't worry about what other people believe that He's said to them.

God placed on my heart to join two new ministries at my church not too long ago. I had been waiting for the confirmation what seemed like forever. I felt pushed to join this ministry or that ministry and I honestly got extremely CONFUSED at one point. And I was so worried that the opinions of others were going to block God's voice. It was so draining because although I hadn't heard God, I was worried that He was speaking to me but was being tuned out causing me to be disobedient unintentionally. So for me the confusion made me just step back for a moment and reevaluate everything. I couldn't move until I knew for sure where He wanted me to go. So when He finally spoke, there couldn't be any procrastination. I was so desperate for His confirmation that I think I tuned into Him more than ever, exactly what He wanted. And once He spoke, Helps Ministry app was "signed, sealed, delivered, I'm YOURS!" lol

I say all that because I've learned the importance of truly hearing His voice, not just when it's convenient or when He says things I want to hear but in my everyday life. The world will always voice their opinions and there will be no definite direction if we always yield to opinions in place of God's direction.

So as my Bishop was saying, it's not just about hearing Him right every once in a while but really being consistent with His directions. If you're trying to get to a certain destination, skipping one of the directions is going to cause you to be lost. You have to follow the directions step by step to get to where you're trying to go.

Sometimes God answers right away and sometimes He doesn't. Sometimes He says yes and sometimes He says no. Sometimes His answer is what you wanted to hear and sometimes it's the last thing you wanted to hear. But I want 100% accuracy with Him. Hearing RIGHT is the difference between obedience and disobedience. And God usually instructs us with a whisper. So tune your ears!