Red Flags Part 2

I realized that there are so many RED FLAGS so I figured I'd break them up and write a Part 2 for Christian dating. Hopefully my big bro will finally contribute "Red Flags:The Male Edition" that I've been requesting for WEEKS! (Won't say any names *cough cough* Ty Francis) He'll get to it soon hopefully. We were talking about RED FLAGS this morning before church started and it inspired me to write these tonight.

Here's Part 2!

•  Everyone knows that first impressions are important. Most people put their best foot forward at the beginning especially the "first date." If he's not even at his best on the first date (picking up the check, opening the door, dressing/looking nice) then how will he act when he's comfortable?? RED FLAG

•  If he NEVER takes the initiative when going places and the question is always "What do you wanna do?" RED FLAG Of course he should do something you'd enjoy but if he doesn't know what you like he should ask your friends/fam about possible ideas. Gotta be an initiator and take some decisions off YOUR hands!

• What is his financial status? Not saying he has to be making 6 figures but how does he handle what he does make? If he has zero financial goals AND no financial plan, RED FLAG

• If he exhibits feminine qualities (a little twist in his step, a weak wrist, rolling his eyes, smacking his mouth etc.) Enough said, RED FLAG lol Just run

• If he can't remember what he read and what he learned during his quiet time and it's a consistent occurrence, then why is he even reading the Bible? RED FLAG

• Not all women prefer the same speed of a relationship but if the guy is moving faster than you would like, "Day 1:You're the greatest girl I've ever met. Day 2: I love you. Day 3: You're my wife. etc." RED FLAG

• Does he keep his word? Do not date someone who has an issue keeping commitments! RED FLAG

• Evaluating who a person surrounds themselves with is a good indicator of how they're being influenced. If his friends are promiscuous drug dealers, then that's not a good sign RED FLAG

• How does he act in tempting situations? If you happen to find yourselves alone and temptation arises does he get up and run while yelling behind him that he'll call you tomorrow (Thumbs up!) Or allow his flesh to take over? Chances are if he can't resist temptation (Control his flesh) while you're dating, what would he do if you all are married and he's tempted at work or other places outside of your home by someone who isn't you? RED FLAG

• How do kids react to him? Kids always run up to me and grab my leg like they know me. I love it because I've heard they recognize good people. However, if kids run screaming in the opposite direction then that's a RED FLAG.

• Is he flirtatious? The last thing you need is someone who flirts with every girl they see. A man of God won't disrespect you that way. RED FLAG

•  How does he handle conflict? Nothings worse than a man who has temper tantrums when things don't go his way. If he retreats to childlike behavior instead of mature conversations to find a resolution RED FLAG

• Is he more concerned about what you eat than what he eats?  He orders you a salad while he eats ribs. Not cool. RED FLAG

• Does he keep the relationship alive? (Creative outings, activities, gifts that aren't necessarily expensive but thoughtful) If not, imagine how dull your relationship could be down the road. Gotta be creative, if not RED FLAG

• Is he open to your opinions? (I didn't like that shirt. You need a fresh hair cut.I don't think that's a good idea.) Or does he struggle with a spirit of offense? If you can't be honest with him then you can't have a real relationship RED FLAG

 I'm sleepy lol So that'll have to do tonight but I'll be back!! Guard your hearts ladies!