You Can't Be a WIFE Until You Get Your Own LIFE!!!

"You can't be a wife until you get your own life!"

Chelsea came up with that phrase, and I love it!!! Go ahead and think it's corny if you want to, but really think about it. It seems to ring true. Even though it mentions "wife," the concept can apply to the fellas to. I mean, technically yes, you can get married without figuring out who you are, what you like, what bugs you, what life goals you're aiming for BUT.....you place someone else in a position to try and get to know you and pull things out of you that you haven't even tapped into on your own. Too many people are getting involved with a "significant other," when it's not their season to be.

For many, now is the time to be SINGLE. Now, is the season of preparation. Now, is the time to get that credit back on track and pay off student loans and your car [talking to myself  :) ]. Why not get a hobby, if you don't have one already? This year, I'd like to learn how to play the sax and trumpet. I hope I finally get to go on a skydiving adventure this spring/summer, since these last couple of years it's been a fail because of the lack of planning on my part. I've been meaning to take a swing dancing class with Chelsea, since it just looks so flippin fun! haha...I've also always wanted to go to the Essence Music Festival, so maybe the impossible will be made possible this summer so I can go. Sooooo, what do you like to do or plan on doing? That was just a snippet of mine.

Note: If you are dating someone right now and you can't do any activity unless they're there, you are lurking towards a problem! You need a life outside of them! As romantic as it sounds to spend time with your "love" nearly every hour of the day, 7 days a week....you are inching towards the possibility for the relationship to grow to be stale, mundane, and predictable. No one wants to hear that they are now "a boring person." So, keep things fresh and don't be so attached at the hip!

As for the non-daters at the moment (like myself), there are a ton of things to work on. I'll be the first to admit that I can't cook. I mean, I think I got main breakfast dishes covered and a few side items for dinner. But, I had to smh at myself last month when I burned rice in the microwave! Wow, right? And I was about to make the driest brownies in the world a couple weeks ago, until Chelsea told me I needed to add more water... lol! I didn't know! haha. My mom has tried to teach me how to cook, but I pushed it away several times because I get extremely HOT in the kitchen so easily and frustrated when the food either sticks to the pan after I sprayed a ton of non-stick spray or it just flat-out doesn't look like the picture!

Sooo (in no particular order), I need to learn how to....

• Cook!

• Parallel park

• Keep my hair up on the regular!

• Be a better steward over my time and finances

• Really plan my future

• Be consistent with my prayer life with God

Just a few things I need to work on RIGHT NOW! Everyone should always be working on something. No one has "made it" yet; there's always room for improvement. 

Learn to be alone sometimes, without the company of friends or a "significant other." Find out who you are. Ask God, continue to keep Him first, and He will reveal things to you. Utilize your gifts/talents. If you don't have a clue as to what they could be, just tap inside yourself. It's not that hard. Chances are YOU KNOW. It has been said that "your gift will make room for you." So, get to work! Get busy about your purpose and everything else should flow and stem from that.

And The Introductions Continue.....

Hello all!


I'm Candice Victoria and I want to welcome you to my official "Project Wifey" site.  If you've read the first posting, then you learned that this is a journey that two young ladies (my bestest friend in the whole wide world, Chels, and myself) are taking.  Each of us will take turns blogging and v-logging via YouTube, once we get a nice, reliable camera--hopefully within the next couple of months =).


Now what exactly is Project Wifey again??


As of now, it's a blog of self-discovery.  It's a way for us to get our life together, work on ourselves, and become reacquainted with who we really are.


Why the name Project Wifey?


Well, I've been observing relationships all over the world for awhile.  Well, not literally (haha) but... through the media, in high school/college, in the church, in my immediate and extended families, and even a relationship of my own that went sour.


I always wonder WHY there are soooo many divorces going on, especially with celebrities.  You can't even keep up with who's with who now, because as soon as a marriage gets goin', you find out they're splitting up.  And some of these people are divorcing after 15, 18, 20 years of marriage! Like, what the world?


I don't understand why people would invest in such a luxurious wedding if they weren't gonna STAY together. I understand that unforeseen circumstances happen, such as a cheating partner or domestic violence in the relationship, but I'm under the impression that people just get bored! And they go with the notion that, "The grass is greener on the other side."  I don't think these people know who they really are, so they jump into relationship after relationship trying to fill a void that their partner is unable to fill.


People have so many high expectations for their potential mate, but they don't even measure up to their own expectations.  I love this line from Lyfe Jenning's song, "Statistics":

"Be the person you want to find.  Don't be a nickel out here looking for a dime."

So, the name of this blog pretty much came from that statement.  We're trying to be ALL that we expect others to be.  For the ladies: we are developing "wifey" attributes, so when Mr. Right comes along, we are READY and we won't have to go through a long depressing period of, "I don't know who I am!!! ...Or what I like or what I wanna do with my life!!!" lol

For the fellas, don't let the term "wifey" keep you away.  Everyone needs to go on this journey.  You need to know and love yourself before you expect others to dig through your dirty laundry.

Ok, I think I've written enough for tonight.  Sorry, if it sounded like I was all over the place.  I was watching TV, looking at YouTube, and trying to get my thoughts together. Haha...but I'm excitedddd!

Have a good night/morning peeps!

Introducing Project Wifey

I'm sure most people might see Project Wifey written somewhere and think to themselves, "Hmm, this must be about somebody trying to get a man." Well, not quite. Project Wifey is much more than any of that. There is a very important journey that every person must go on, the journey of self discovery. Separations and divorces are so common today. It's easy to blame so many other factors but what's the root of the issue? Is it possible that a lack of self understanding and wholeness between two individual people can cause chaos once the two become one? This will be a journey of two Christian young women who are determined to get all that God has for them during their season of singleness and ultimately striving for the true definition of wholeness.

Candice Victoria

Chels. C