I remember liking white guys and finding them attractive when I was in elementary school. I think when you're younger, you'll like anyone. I'm saying that in a good way; back then, you would like/love others genuinely. Society hadn't forced you to believe that one group was better than another yet. You just wanted to play your game(s) and live freely with whoever, regardless of skin tone.
I still find some white guys attractive today. I went to Buffalo Wild Wings a couple of weeks ago with Chelsea, and we had this finneeee white waiter. I kept telling Chelsea he was a "beautiful creature." lol..and he was. Pretty eyes, tan, and he smiled a lot. Ah!
I think that interracial relationships are a beautiful thing. Relationships where both parties are the same ethnicity are cool, too. But when I see interracial ones, it makes me curious and I want to know more. It's an interesting subject, and it just shows how far people have come from the crucial days of segregation.
I don't know why, but I have this insane random desire to date a white guy now. Like I said, I was never against it. But I just feel more OPEN to the idea. However, I'm not gonna be dating to be dating. If and when I date now, it's all for marriage. Why waste time? I want a hubby. Playing emotional "feelings" games with a boyfriend is not gonna fly this time around. I guess that also means I can't be shallow and only find interest in another's physical appearance (like many girlfriends/boyfriends do).
I'm just making it known that a white guy would be sweettt! lol
I still like black guys, mixed guys, and many of God's beautiful creatures. I'm just really open to the idea. I'm sure you all have made a list of characteristics you want in a mate, or you may have an invisible list in your head.
PHYSICALLY---> Ladies may want a guy taller than them with pretty eyes, light or chocolate skin, built body, nice biceps, etc. Fellas may want a girl with the hourglass shape, big butt, nice legs/calves, hair and nails done, etc.
I think a lot of us tend to allow ourselves to become so focused on the physical that we forget to introduce ourselves to the true being of that person. We forget to become friends with the person, and instead, we fall head over heels into lust with a person's body and/or how they look. Yes, first impressions are everything, and how you present yourself to the world is crucial. However, we need to stop being so shallow.
Do you only surround yourself or talk to "attractive" people? Do you like to keep the so-called "unattractive" people around you to only make yourself seem superior? Do you only hang out with your "own" people? What are your feelings of interracial relationships (friendships, included)?
I'd say to NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER. You never know who or what your blessing may be. Don't limit God, and just be open to different friendships and connections to take place in your life. It's time for boundaries to be crossed, especially in the church. I'm ready for my church to be more mixed and not predominantly black. There is no black heaven, white heaven, or Hispanic heaven. So, we might as well get used to praising God together while we're here. :-)
As for me, the physical desires for my potential mate doesn't matter if he doesn't believe what I believe. I'm not gonna try to change anyone this time around either. No time to catch him up on what I've been working on along for myself.
I think my list is pretty simple (with additional add-ons occasionally): someone that loves God more than me, someone purpose-driven and focused, has a sense of humor and DOESN'T take life so seriously, respectful, can hold a conversation as well as LISTEN, and.......wouldn't you like to know? lol
But to me: height or size doesn't matter (as long as he's not leaning towards the unhealthy side) and I don't mind what color he is...I'm not gonna be shallow or too picky. God knows what's best for me more than what I can explain to Him, so I'm stepping back. The limits are taken off...
